You don’t have to be a blogger or influencer on social media to hear negative comments. Outside of your questions about Navy I get asked on ways to deal with social media negativity. About a week ago, I asked you a question on my Instastories. I wanted to know what you were optimistic about. Much to my surprise many of you are optimistic about your future as well as optimistic about being more comfortable in your own skin. Thank you for sharing your personal stories with me.
While I know it is hard to make everybody happy there are a few things you can do to bypass the negativity that is out there. Late last year I signed up for the Frost Bank Opt for Optimism campaign. It was really cool. They sent me different tools to apply into my on a regular basis. Things that would clear your head. Things to do for others and ways to spread happiness. They were great challenges that I’m still working on doing day to day.
I was listening to motivational speaker Michelle Gielan. She talks about how you can have lower stress, higher cells and higher productivity when you have a positive attitude. If you get a chance to listen to her I highly recommend it. She was on the Today show in August of ‘18 and gave 4 tips on how to be positive. The tips were to direct your focus, practice gratitude, spread positivity and challenge yourself. These are things we can work on doing on a daily basis.
I wanted to share some of the things that I practice on a regular basis.
Ways To Deal With Social Media Negativity
1. It’s not about you: Most of the time it’s something someone is going through that will have nothing to do with you. Give a little grace.
2. Try to see the best in others: When you rush to judgment it doesn’t help any situation. Maybe what you read or heard is a poor way of someone trying to help. Think to yourself. “Is there something I can take away from this?” Just like the children’s song, ‘God’s still working on me.’ Try to always keep in mind we are all works in progress.
3. Use the word blocking tool: Did you know this was there? I’ve used it. Especially after my season of The Bachelor started. I know people can be very hurtful and knowing young girls follow me, it was important to not have cursing and hurtful words allowed.
4. Spread positivity: When you are positive it makes it harder for others to find room to be negative. People realize you don’t feed into it and it’s a sneaky reverse phycology. Maybe go so far as to volunteer or support a local cause.
5. Support each other: One thing that seems to be the hardest to do but has an immense amount of power is to support other women. This is something I will drive into Navy. Just think about how it feels when something great happens in your life and you’re praised or supported. Others want to feel that way too. This is how you make friends and keep them.
Now I know this is easier said than done. If you need more tangible things to do:
1. Go for a 20 min walk. The sun and/or fresh air can do wonders for your mind.
2. Hit the gym. Trust me, it will take your mind off of things for a little while and maybe that’s all you need so you can come back with a fresh outlook on life.
3. Volunteer: Nothing will make you feel better than petting a dog or cat. Children also have a way of making you smile.
We live in a society where people feel like they have the right to give their opinion no matter what the circumstances. I have Women that aren’t even mom’s giving me advice. You just have to laugh at it and move on. Don’t let negativity out there ruin your day. You give it too much authority in your life and it’s not worth it.
This post is sponsored by Frost Bank. All opinions are my own.
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Kindness is free – I wish people would spread that and encouragement around on social media ❤️
Well said!
Love this post because u go into detail about how having a good attitude can help u ignore all the negativity around us not just social media but in everyday life if we have a good attitude toward things when bad things come we will be prepared and we wont let it affects us.
I totally agree with this post and appreciate your recommendations for dealing with negativity on social media. It’s totally about the other person! Sad that they project what they are struggling with onto other people. As a mental health provider I really try and help clients get to the bottom of what makes them feel like they need to bully others!
Love your suggestion about going outside! It’s crazy how just some sunshine and fresh air can change your mood!
I love that you included volunteering as a tangible way to cope with negativity. The most amazing thing about service is how it lifts the focus right off of you and onto others, and when we’re focusing on serving God or a greater purpose all of our stresses and insecurities fly out the window.
You’ve always dealt with social media bullies with such class & taste — so many other bloggers/influencers could learn from you!
Love this! So many great suggestions! I know I always feel better after a workout for sure. I have been looking for ways to volunteer because I know how much that would benefit me!
One of the most important aspects (and hardest!) Is realizing “it isn’t you” when the negative comments show up. Thanks Ashlee!
Social media is so huge these days and raising three daughters has made me so much more aware of the affect it can have. They are 13, 14 and 16 and in the thick of it. I love this post.
Love this so much! So much negativity out there and it’s hard to know how to deal with it!!! Thank you for sharing!
I love all of your tips! Social media can put so much negativity in your life and your tips are perf❤️❤️
Social media negativity is so stressful in everyone’s lives! Normally, I like to delete social media for a break and focus on things more present in life like family and close friends. Thank you for talking about this!!
This advice is gold! I teach high school communications and am floored how much kids deal with this. Good advice to pass along.
this is my favorite post thus far!! I’ve been following you for a while now and you are so authentic and genuine, which is so hard to find these days!! thanks for being you 🙂
I love this so much ! Thank you for your advice, it truly is wonderful. I love how authentic and genuine you are with your content. ❤️
Thanks for sharing and being part of the positive! 😀
I think giving yourself a designated time away from social media is key. Too much can really bring someone down.
Negativity is definitely so big in real or social media. Especially after having kids, people judge me for what I chose to post about kids or what I do with them. This post really made me think about not going into all the negativity and being depressed. It’s very hard when you feel every move or every post is being judged. I try going to the gym but definitely think volunteering should help me get over all the negative comments passed by my close people or people I don’t even know. Thanks Ashlee for a great post. Looking forward to reading more posts like theses.
Love this post! It is full of truth that everyone should think about! I’m going to start listening to Michelle Gielan because we all need some more motivation in our life.
I love that you referenced the song “God’s still working on me” –“to make me what I need to be.” I needed that reminder. Thanks for your insight on this topic. More ppl need to realize the effects of social media negativity. ❤️
Reading your post just lifted my spirits! I try daily to be as positive as as I can and to try and filter out the negativity when possible. I believe it’s helpful to surround ourselves with people who lift us up, but we can’t always avoid negativity especially on social media. You are so right that it is not about us. We don’t always know what people are feeling or dealing with in their lives. I love your advice “give a little grace.”
love this! so much negativity out there!
Love this! Sometimes it’s best for me to just step up away in general and be present with my family 🙂
This is my favorite blog post because…
As a teen it can be really hard to not let negative comments and post impact you, but your blog helped me see that there are ways to handle it in a positive way. Thank you <3