You don’t have to be a blogger or influencer on social media to hear negative comments. Outside of your questions about Navy I get asked on ways to deal with social media negativity. About a week ago, I asked you a question on my Instastories. I wanted to know what you were optimistic about. Much to my surprise many of you are optimistic about your future as well as optimistic about being more comfortable in your own skin. Thank you for sharing your personal stories with me.
While I know it is hard to make everybody happy there are a few things you can do to bypass the negativity that is out there. Late last year I signed up for the Frost Bank Opt for Optimism campaign. It was really cool. They sent me different tools to apply into my on a regular basis. Things that would clear your head. Things to do for others and ways to spread happiness. They were great challenges that I’m still working on doing day to day.
I was listening to motivational speaker Michelle Gielan. She talks about how you can have lower stress, higher cells and higher productivity when you have a positive attitude. If you get a chance to listen to her I highly recommend it. She was on the Today show in August of ‘18 and gave 4 tips on how to be positive. The tips were to direct your focus, practice gratitude, spread positivity and challenge yourself. These are things we can work on doing on a daily basis.
I wanted to share some of the things that I practice on a regular basis.
Ways To Deal With Social Media Negativity
1. It’s not about you: Most of the time it’s something someone is going through that will have nothing to do with you. Give a little grace.
2. Try to see the best in others: When you rush to judgment it doesn’t help any situation. Maybe what you read or heard is a poor way of someone trying to help. Think to yourself. “Is there something I can take away from this?” Just like the children’s song, ‘God’s still working on me.’ Try to always keep in mind we are all works in progress.
3. Use the word blocking tool: Did you know this was there? I’ve used it. Especially after my season of The Bachelor started. I know people can be very hurtful and knowing young girls follow me, it was important to not have cursing and hurtful words allowed.
4. Spread positivity: When you are positive it makes it harder for others to find room to be negative. People realize you don’t feed into it and it’s a sneaky reverse phycology. Maybe go so far as to volunteer or support a local cause.
5. Support each other: One thing that seems to be the hardest to do but has an immense amount of power is to support other women. This is something I will drive into Navy. Just think about how it feels when something great happens in your life and you’re praised or supported. Others want to feel that way too. This is how you make friends and keep them.
Now I know this is easier said than done. If you need more tangible things to do:
1. Go for a 20 min walk. The sun and/or fresh air can do wonders for your mind.
2. Hit the gym. Trust me, it will take your mind off of things for a little while and maybe that’s all you need so you can come back with a fresh outlook on life.
3. Volunteer: Nothing will make you feel better than petting a dog or cat. Children also have a way of making you smile.
We live in a society where people feel like they have the right to give their opinion no matter what the circumstances. I have Women that aren’t even mom’s giving me advice. You just have to laugh at it and move on. Don’t let negativity out there ruin your day. You give it too much authority in your life and it’s not worth it.
This post is sponsored by Frost Bank. All opinions are my own.12