(Excuse the mistakes. I wrote this out pretty quick. I'll edit later)
The news is finally out! Aaron and I are expecting our first child and it’s a girl. We couldn’t be more excited. As of today I am 15 weeks. The hardest thing was to not share this news with you. I find it so funny that the first trimester, when you feel the worst and need the most nurturing and pampering you don’t tell anyone. I will say this, Aaron has been nothing short of amazing. Truly I married the best. He’s going to be the best girl dad.
Parent’s to be
Speaking of being a girl dad. How sweet is a relationship between a father and daughter? I really wanted a daughter for Aaron. I can’t wait for the day he takes her on a date and shows her how boys should treat girls. She’s going to be the luckiest girl to have Aaron as her daddy.
And as for me…I can’t wait to love her and be her best ally. As an adopted child I have yearned for a daughter to make all the wrongs that were done to me, right. There is so much love in my heart that I’ve missed out on from a mother in my life that I have to give to her. Everyday I pray for her heart. I pray she grows up to love Jesus and to always put him first. In the name of The Lord this will come into fruition.
I wanted to take the time to share my pregnancy so far and to answer your questions from the past 48 hours since I announced it on Instagram.
How I found out:
Right after Christmas we took a family trip to Breckenridge, CO. The very first night we got there I threw up. I chalked it up to the altitude. Then the entire time we were there I was feeling off. At one point I told Aaron’s mom I felt weird in the altitude and she said she was too. Then on NYE Aaron broke his ankle! When we were in the Breckenridge med room I felt the nausea come again and was super tired.
We got back to Houston on the 2nd of January. I was suppose to start my period that day. When I didn’t I took a test that morning. The first test was one of those ones that has two lines. Well, one line was dark and the other was super light. I though to myself, “this thing is crap!” So, I threw it away and decided to take another test before I went to bed. This test was one that read “pregnant” and “not pregnant.” I needed the clear answer. Sure enough it came out “PREGNANT.” I was freaking out and ran to Aaron and told him as he was hobbling to go use the rest room, ha. He hugged me (didn’t spin me because of his ankle, as I always thought he’d do) and kissed me. He was so excited.
After telling Aaron, I was upset with myself because I had envisioned some really adorable way I’d tell Aaron. Typically he’d be at work when I found out and I’d be able to calm down. But with him having surgery on his ankle the next morning, he was home and I blurted it out. I couldn’t hold it in.
I haven’t really been craving anything. With that said, I have had lots of food aversions. Before I was pregnant I would have a popsicle every night before going to bed. Now, I want nothing to do with them. Sweets have also been something I could live without. The worst thing I’ve been doing is going out to eat, ordering something that sounds amazing and by the time it arrives at the table, I’m not into it anymore. That routine gets old after about the twelfth time.
The very first night I found out I was pregnant I also found out I could never eat enough. I was starving 100% of the time. And when I don’t eat I’d feel nauseas. Carrying crackers or a protein bar with me helped out with that.
- Something interesting I’ve noticed is that baby girl doesn’t like when I sit my computer on my tummy. After about 2 min of it being there I start to feel weird and have to move the computer over. Sucks bc I love lying in bed and typing.
- Another fun fact, I can not stand arguing or fighting on any level. Usually when I watch the Real Housewives I get so into those cat fights. Now, I have to change the channel right away. Sorry Andy Cohen. Same with CNN. I now only watch FOX News. I can’t stand the bickering. Forget local news. That’s the worst news ever. If we are in a restaurant and a couple is having a moment near us, I have to move. Seriously, my heart can’t take it.
- One thing that is really awesome is I have never been so calm in my life. Usually, I’m high strung, wound up tight and always go, go, go. That is not the case with me anymore. Part of me thinks I am so happy to be pregnant. The other part is I’ve really prayed for peace and with all my heart I think God has gifted that serenity to me. It’s been really great. I think Aaron is loving me more these days. He probably is secretly wanting me to stay pregnant for the next 5 years.
Now for the Q/A’s
There is so much more I want to share with you all and I promise I will. For now I want to answer some of the questions you all have been sending over to me.
Q: How did you tell your parents you were pregnant?
A: For my parents– When I was a kid my dad would always take me fishing with him. I hated to go! It was not my thing at all. It smelled, I was scared 50-80 miles out with those big waves. All I wanted to do was be in my room and go play with my friends. A day out on the boat meant none of that. One time we went out and got caught with the tide out. There wasn’t enough water to launch the boat. So, this meant we were going back out to sea. We had been out all day and it was super late at night by now. I wan’t having any of it. I threw a fit. My dad finally turned to me and said, “baby girl, just think of this as a father-daughter slumber party.” The only two people that thought that was funny was my mom and dad. I was mad.
Ever since then it’s been a running joke between me and my dad. We’ve use that line through out the years when the right time permitted. So, for the pregnancy announcement I made him a t-shirt that said, “Father-Daughter Slumber Party Replacement …coming Sept 2018.”
For Aaron’s parents- Aaron’s mom doesn’t have any biological grand babies so this one was special. We were having a family day to celebrate mine and Aaron’s 1 year anniversary. So not only were we telling everyone we were expecting but we also decided to wait and have a gender reveal, all on the same day. I thought it would be fun to bring 11 roses. One representing each of their grandchildren. When I handed them to her it took her about 15 seconds before she realized the number 11 should be 10 and then it all clicked. Of course his mom cried and was over the moon excited. So was the whole family.
Q: How did you find out the gender?
A: We decided to find this out on the same day we told Aaron’s family. I ordered a cake from Dacapo’s in the Heights and gave them a mailed letter from my dr. with the gender inside. No! I didn’t peak. I’m all for the surprise and would only want to share that moment with Aaron.
Q: Were you trying to get pregnant?
A: Yes. We had been trying for a few months. I was doing everything I could for the first 3 months until it just became overwhelming. Then in December I told my maid (who is like my mom) and Aaron that I was done trying and was leaving it up to The Lord. That month I got pregnant.
Q: Will you be sharing pregnancy outfits?
A: You can count on it.
Q Have you started to show?
A: Not really. So far I’ve gained 2lbs…and that seems to be on target. I see the my dr. tomorrow and she will hopefully confirm that I’m on target. There definitely isn’t a six pack there anymore. It’s more like an “I ate too much queso” belly thing happening.
Q: What’s your birth plan?
A: I’ll go over more of this as time goes on and I think more about it. The only thing I can tell you with certainty is I plan to have a full natural birth. What I mean, no epidural and no meds. Now, that’s the plan and I know things can end up differently but I;m working towards that goal. I have an incredible doctor that supports me and is walking me through everything I need to do to assure the best birth.
I have an appointment tomorrow with the dr. and will keep you all posted on how everything goes. Until then, thank you for all the overwhelming love and support. Hopefully, this second trimester is when my wave of energy starts back up and I’ll be blogging a lot more.
If you all have any questions please ask away. I want to talk more in depth about fitness, steps I took to get pregnant (which I think made a difference) and these headaches I’ve been getting. I also want to share my birth plan as well as my cord banking. So, stay tuned. There is a lot more to come.